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Post  Linda Mon Mar 07, 2011 12:18 pm

This is hard for me to write as I really don't ask for help most times.
I have a fiend that I gave a puppy to her grown daughter and her boy friend.They broke up and she got her own apt she took said pup with her.
I got a call from my friend saying she didn't think her daughter could keep him. He was barking all day peeing and eating rugs and bedding.She also told me she really believed the boy friend would do no better with the pup.So I told her the pup should come home I would work with him and may even keep him.So I went to work on the husband and we both agreed he should come home.I got a message from the mother telling me that the boyfriend took the pup.I got a hold of the mother and was upset she told me this was for the best.I pointed out to her that she had been telling me for weeks that this was a bad plan .Now I really got upset and yelled at the mother and asked how she could believe this was for the best after all she had been telling me.We talked for awhile and I said I was sorry for yelling at her I know it isn't her fault.So I thought between the two of us we had worked it out that I knew she had done what she could for the pup.Now when I call she will not take my calls and I have no idea how things are going for the pup.She was also a very good friend and I miss talking to her .Please help me to understand if it was you how you would have handle such a shock.Now I am worried the pup will come to harm with his eating everything in sight and will they have the means to get him to a vet should anything happen.Would love your input Sad
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Post  AlaskanLowrider Mon Mar 07, 2011 6:03 pm

This is a hard one...breaking up is hard especially when family gets involved as one day something is said...its ran with then the next everything is backtracked depending on the moment Rolling Eyes Who knows what the daughter said to convince the mom the boyfriend was bad ..maybe it was out of anger then when things cooled off or only the daughters side was told then changed her mind after hearing the boyfriends side - either way they decided to give him a chance with this puppy as a sort of "child custody".

I would let some time pass before contacting your friend again to let things said settle and tempers cool off. Is there any way you can get in touch with the boyfriend? If there is I wouldn't bring up the break up or dispute just plainly ask for an update and pictures so you can see how the pup is growing as part of you keeping track of your breeding program and let him know what to expect at the puppies current stage like you would write a class paper being sure to let him know you can answer any and all his questions as they come up...this way your not taking sides and making it clear you are only interested in the puppy. If he attempts to pull you in - ignore it...same with your friend and her daughter as you do not need the added stress of others drama. I would also email her to let her know you will be contacting the boyfriend for an update and offer him advice since she isn't taking your calls as you don't want to appear to be going behind her back...this way its all upfront proving you want to salvage the friendship and look out for the pups best interest at the same time.

In the meantime check your local laws on getting the puppy back...whats the criteria? Here only the registered persons through animal control can claim custody after sweeping for a microchip if one exists - if no one comes forward in 30 days after it being published in the paper whoever has the dog can then claim it. I was going to do all my pups micro-chipping until I found this out....now I go through the animal shelter so they add the puppy to my file at the same time. For the pup to get out of my name the new owners need to register the pup themselves through their local shelter showing bill of sale...you'd be surprised how many people don't realize this - Since doing this I still have 26 of 28 puppies registered to me - it is a bit of a headache when it comes to inspections (I am allowed Cool until they come and see for themselves and I show them the contracts and receipts along with the others vaccination records but it gives me added insurance so If there is a pup I believe to be in danger then I can call AC and have an escort to pick up the puppy/dog instead of just filing a report for it to be filed somewhere then I added it to my contract in case the puppy isn't registered to me anymore.

Before taking action though, give the boyfriend a chance to prove his worth and salvage your friendship..who knows they may get back together or he may prove himself to be a good "daddy" or realize he is over his head and contact you as long as your not seen as the enemy or the daughters ally.... Of course this is from my point of view and what I would do in this situation Wink

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