What would you do?

LOL.....I didn't know for sure where to post this but figured this was as good a place as any!!

I have a slight situation!
I am "fostering" 2 dachshunds for a "friend". I have had these 2 dogs for probably 4 mths. Plus I had 4 pups for 2 mths. During this time, I have only gotten 1 bag of puppy food and $28.00 for food and care! I have asked this person to please come get her dogs several times. She keeps avoiding the subject and saying soon. I have asked for money to help towards food and keep getting, "I will send some soon"! So how long would you go caring for these dogs? I know she is having some difficult times, but her male is very agressive towards the other males and he has to be seperated when fed. Her female is a kennel dog and has NO house manners. She wants me to breed her female to my male when she comes into heat. She is not registered yet and I honestly don't feel comfortable doing this. I have tried to approach her in a nice way several times and I even got really mad and approached her very upset. Neither way seems to matter or budge her on these 2 dogs. I am at a total loss on what to do with them. The female is beautiful and is cream sired but she has no papers. The male is a blue & tan and not so nice. He has growled at us on several occassions and he has even bit my husband and left a nasty scar on his fingers!
So.......I want to be nice but how much longer should I be nice and what would you do?? I don't want these dogs here any longer now with all my new kids....I just don't have the room for other peoples dogs!!

Maybe call her or email her one last time explaining what you want of her, and give her a time frame and if the stuff you want her to do isn't fulfilled by that time than you consider it abandonment of the dogs and you now have custody of them....maybe do it in an email so you can save it as evidence if she were to ever do anything court wise.

Is this person close enough (geographically) that you can contact her and say "I can't have these dogs here anymore. I can bring them to you on either Thursday or Friday, which one would you prefer?" That way you are not really giving her an option to say "no". And if she really kicks up a fuss, you have to be prepared to tell her that if she expects you to find them new homes for her, you have paperwork for her to sign saying she is relinquishing them to you for that purpose. Tough situation.

I agree with the others. I'd send her an email, so it's in writing, giving her a deadline. Either pick up your dogs by X date, or I'll consider them abandoned, have them spayed/neutered and find them homes. Sounds like she can't bring herself to admit she can't afford them.

And as a side note, I wouldn't breed the bitch to your male. Without papers, you can't do any pedigree research, so you have no idea what issues are in her lines. You don't want your male getting a bad reputation if she throws defects.

I have emailed her, fb messaged her, texted her, left messages on her home phone & cell phone and she refuses to talk to me. The few times she has talked to me she keeps saying ok we can meet this weekend or next weekend and then when I contact her to make sure she is still meeting me, I get no reply! I have already hinted around and tried to tell her politely that if I don't have money by this XX date that I am considering this abandonment of the dogs. She just doesn't care or she gives me this sob story and makes me feel like shit for even suggesting it. There is ALWAYS an excuse or reason or give me another week. She was suppose to send me money for food a mth ago and then again 2 wks ago and that is the last time I spoke to her. I finally told her without papers for her female I will not do the breeding. She keeps avoiding picking them up. She is 4 hrs from me and since she moved.....I don't even have her new physical address. I have never been to her new home but I know the area or city it is in and that is it.
Believe me.....I have exhausted every way imagineable with her. My husband is furiated over this and is ready to take the male to the pound. Of course I won't let him do this, but if he bites him again......there is no telling what my husband will do to him! I have begged, pleaded and everything with her on this. I can't just take the dogs to her since I don't have her physical address and she doesn't want to give it out.......she is going thru a nasty court battle with her father right now!
I am just very frustrated at this point and thought that maybe if I aired it....someone could help me come up with a win win solution......LOL!!!

Oh and when I agreed to take them it was only for 6 wks!!

I'm sorry, but I'd be done with it by now. Tell her she has until Saturday to pick up the dogs or you're posting them for sale. If the male is nasty tempered, he's going to be a challenge to place, too.

I want to tell her exactly that......but don't know if I can, if she ever answers the phone for me. It really wouldn't even be to bad.....but her male is allergic to grain I think and he has to be fed special food or he just plain won't eat. I am now out of it and have to go buy more. He is the only one that has to be seperated to eat and we are feeding him this new stuff and he is finally gaining weight and looking good like he should. I just know I could never do this to someone and she knows all about the food and his issues. I am wondering if she really just doesn't want him back.
I am going to make one last attempt to contact her and tell her straight out to come get them, or they will be gone soon. She also hasn't mailed me my papers for my dog that I got from her. I swear it is like pulling teeth to get anything done with her. Wish I had known this before I got involved!!

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Life would be so much easier if people would just be honest. I agree completely with the others, one last e-mail and be done with her. Place those two and consider it a lesson. As for your dog you got from her, do you have any info on parents or anything? Maybe their names or AKC numbers? If so, maybe if you file a dispute with AKC they can help you with it.

I actually have the sire here.....he is the male. Her temperment is nothing like his. Thank Goodness!! I asked her to mail them out to me and she obviously hasn't done that yet or I would have received them by now.

I would let her know that my hubby wont let me keep them any longer...blame it on him. Tell her he said she either has to come get them in so many days or you will have no choice but to place them into homes because he has placed his foot down...let him be the bad guy...i am sure he wont care.

I would send her a certified letter. That way you have a signature receipt that she got the letter. I would tell her that without a contract, after 30 days- they are considered abandoned and now your property. I would also list in the letter a deadline date to contact you. I would also say that if she doen't contact you by that date, that her dogs will be spayed/neutered and sent to pet homes or a rescue. That should get her in bottom in gear.

I sent her an email and now she is contacting me. She once again is ready to make arrangements to come get her dogs. We will see if she follows thru with it! I gave her the altimatum!